Online Relationship Counselling Australia
by EWC
Do you wish to be understood, more connected, and accepted for who you genuinely are?
Are you feeling overwhelmed and misinterpreted?
Do you feel hopelessness where you once felt secure and protected?
Is there conflict where there used to just be love and enjoyment?
At the outset, love can be intense and delightful. Over time, difficult experiences may alter how you relate to and feel about your partner. If you choose to dance with someone, it’s inevitable that you’ll occasionally tread on each other’s toes.
As a professional in online couples counselling, I provide assistance to help you comprehend, mend and enrich your emotional connection – allowing you to engage with one another in a responsive manner. Numerous couples seek my guidance during times of distress and upheaval, perhaps due to a major incident such as illness or betrayal. Conversely, others might have grown apart and are eager to revive the intimacy and strength of their original bond.
In my experience working with partners in distress, I have found that a technique known as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples, which is based on attachment theory, proves to be very effective. Backed by three decades of research, EFT is recognised as a robust framework for alleviating relationship disputes and strengthening the emotional bond between partners. Approximately 70-75% of couples undergo a shift from distress to recovery through EFT, and around 90% exhibit significant positive transformations.
Goals of EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
For each of you to:
Acknowledge and rearrange essential emotional reactions – the “music” of the dance with one another.
Broaden your fundamental sense of self and how you react to and instigate new patterns of engagement.
Encourage the development of a stable connection between partners — one characterised by resilience and increased agency.
Why an attachment based approach? - Online Relationship Counselling
The study of attachment views humans as inherently predisposed to relationships, social interaction, and establishing intimate bonds with others. The EFT framework highlights the significance of attachment and the capacity to regulate emotions as key elements that influence personal experiences and vital interactions within relationships.
EFT provides a deep understanding of the function of attachment in romantic partnerships. Most disagreements fundamentally arise from complaints regarding emotional disconnection. Beneath the conflict lies a fundamental question that partners genuinely seek to answer: are you there for me?
Love necessitates tangible reassurance, such as physical intimacy, particularly during times of need. When the connection with a cherished individual is broken, it jeopardises your emotional well-being. This loss triggers an alert in the area of the brain that identifies threats and fear—the amygdala. Activating the amygdala leads to an instinctive, impulsive reaction, frequently resulting in a profound sense of unease. In this situation, What matters to you is your perception of events rather than the actual circumstances. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) centres on fostering mutual understanding and a sense of security between partners through deep emotional connections. This comprehension of emotional dynamics establishes EFT as the premier approach for online couples counselling.
See here for more detailed information and resources regarding Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Here is a great video by Dr Sue Johnson that helps explain Emotionally Focused Therapy
Advantages of Emotionally Focused Therapy
for Online Relationship Counselling
EFT is founded on clear, explicit understandings of marital distress and adult love, underpinned by empirical research into adult attachment.
It is a collaborative and respectful approach that centres on the client, blending experiential Rogerian techniques with structured systemic interventions.
Deep core emotions are intensified and elicited to encourage partners towards new, more responsive interactions. Emotions are monitored, unpacked, and linked to key stages in the couple’s narrative.
Significant actions and moments in the change process are organised into nine steps and five change events that each couple navigates at their own pace.
- Validation is used to establish a safe space for both partners during sessions.
Responses are framed and clarified within your newfound understanding of attachment.
New enactments are designed to assist partners in engaging with one another in ways that allow each individual to reach out and respond compassionately to the other.
EFT does not assign blame nor does it align itself with any specific religious beliefs.
- It is suitable for any individual in a couple seeking to enhance their sense of connection, regardless of whether the couple is mixed gender, same gender, monogamous or non-monogamous.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a thoroughly researched and systematic method for both in-person and online relationship counselling, established in the early 1980s by Dr. Susan Johnson. EFT is utilised to assist couples facing difficulties in various environments, including private practices, educational institutions, and healthcare facilities. Its efficacy spans a broad spectrum of couples from different cultures, backgrounds, age ranges, and life experiences. Additionally, EFT can effectively tackle challenges faced by individual partners coping with issues such as depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, and chronic illnesses.
Regardless of your marital status, living arrangements, or sexual orientation, the Emotionally Focused Therapy approach can offer insight into your life and help you move towards your collective objectives. EFT has been scientifically proven to be an effective technique for resolving disputes within a couple’s relationship while also strengthening both the resilience and core identity of individuals within that partnership.
I am recognised on the ICEEFT website as an EFT therapist and an active member of the Australian MCEFT chapter.
More detail on the EFT approach is available online. You can read about EFT in this article by the founder Sue Johnson.
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