Online Relationship Counselling
Online Couples Counselling AUS
Are you wanting to be Understood, more Connected and Accepted for who you truly are?
Are you feeling flooded and misunderstood?
Do you feel despair where once you felt secure and safe?
Is there conflict where once there was love and fun?
In the beginning, love can be intense, wonderful. With the passage of time, challenging experiences can change the way you interact with and feel about your partner. If you’re going to dance with someone, you’re going to step on each other’s feet once in a while.
As a specialist in online relationship counselling, I offer you support to understand, heal and enhance your emotional connection – enabling you to dance together with responsive engagement. Various couples seek my help while in pain and turmoil, possibly due to a significant event like sickness or infidelity. Meanwhile, others may have drifted apart and are looking to rekindle the intimacy and strength of their initial bond.
In my experience working with partners, I’ve discovered that a method known as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples, which is rooted in attachment theory, is highly successful. With three decades of studies supporting it, EFT is established as an effective framework for mitigating relationship conflict and enhancing the emotional connection between partners. Roughly 70-75% of couples experience a transition from turmoil to healing through EFT, and about 90% demonstrate considerable positive changes.
Goals of EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
For each of you:
- To recognise and re-organise key emotional responses – the “music” of the dance with each other.
- To expand your core sense of self and how you respond and initiate new cycles of interaction.
- To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners with resilience and enhanced agency.
Why an attachment based approach? - Online Couples Counselling
The science of attachment considers humans to be naturally inclined towards relationships, sociability, and forming close connections with others. The EFT framework places emphasis on the importance of attachment and the ability to manage emotions as central components that shape personal experiences and crucial interactions within relationships.
EFT offers a profound grasp of the role of attachment in romantic partnerships. The majority of arguments essentially stem from protests over emotional disconnection. Below the surface of the conflict, what partners truly want to know is: are you there for me?
Love requires tangible affirmation, such as physical closeness, especially when one is in need. When the bond with a loved one is severed, it endangers your emotional stability. This loss activates an alert in the part of the brain responsible for detecting threats and fear—the amygdala. Triggering the amygdala prompts an instinctive, impulsive response, often resulting in a fundamental sense of dread. It is how you perceive things that matters, rather than the actual situation. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on building mutual understanding and a feeling of safety between partners through deep emotional bonds. This understanding of emotional dynamics positions EFT as the leading methodology for online couples counselling.
See here for more in depth information and resources about Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Here is a great video by Dr Sue Johnson that helps explain Emotionally Focused Therapy
Strengths of Emotionally Focused Therapy
for Online Relationship Counselling
- EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualisations of marital distress and adult love supported by empirical research on adult attachment.
- EFT is collaborative and respectful and client-centric combining experiential Rogerian techniques with structured systemic interventions.
- Profound core emotions are heightened and evoked to move partners into new, more responsive interactions. Emotions are tracked, unpacked, and tied into key steps in the couple’s drama.
- Key moves and moments in the change process are mapped into nine steps and five change events which each couple moves through in their own time.
- Validation is used to create a safe haven in the session for both partners.
- Responses are framed and clarified within your new understanding of attachment.
- New enactments are shaped to help partners move into interactions where each one of them can reach for the other and respond caringly to the other.
- EFT is non-blaming, nor is it affiliated with any particular religious beliefs.
- EFT is for any individual in a couple wanting to improve their sense of connection, whether they are mixed gender, same gender, monogamous or non-monogamous.
EFT is a well-researched, structured approach to both face-to-face and online couples counselling founded in the early 1980’s by Dr. Susan Johnson. EFT is employed to support struggling partners within settings including private practices, academic teaching facilities, and medical clinics. Its effectiveness extends across a wide range of couples hailing from diverse cultures, demographics, age groups, and personal experiences. EFT is also capable of addressing issues experienced by individual partners dealing with conditions like depression, post-traumatic stress disorders, and long-term illnesses.
No matter your marital status, living situation, or sexual orientation, the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) method can provide clarity about your life and assist in progressing towards your shared goals. EFT is scientifically validated as a successful method for resolving conflicts within a couple’s relationship and enhancing both the resilience and fundamental identity of individuals within that partnership.
I am recognised on the ICEEFT website as an EFT therapist and an active member of the Australian MCEFT chapter.
More detail on the EFT approach is available online. You can read about EFT in this article by the founder Sue Johnson.
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